killjoy wrote:But I do think she toyed with Alex's feelings why to much.I also think had it been a guy doing this to a woman many of the females on this board wouldn't be so supportive of the character than

Well, Pooh doesn't want to badmouth another character, and that's generous of her, but I have to refute this as you've made a direct statement that I think I can argue in a fairly mathematical (Kay's rubbing off on me), unbiased way.
Your argument (more or less, correct me if I'm wrong) is centered around Isabel telling Alex one thing and then turning around almost directly and doing something different (saying she can't be in a relationship and then deciding to date Grant) and that if the gender portrayals were switched, females wouldn't be as quick to support a man for doing so, but there is such a specific example of this that happens on the show that I can't help but point it out.
In Cry Your Name, already nobody's favorite episode in here content-wise, though they're broken up and are attempting to move on, Max tries to help out Liz when he sees how very heartbroken she is over losing Alex, and at the end of the conversation, there's this:
Cry Your Name wrote:LIZ: OK. Thank you very much for the macaroni and cheese, and, um, thank you for listening. (walks to the door)
Just always be my friend. Will you do that, Max?
MAX: You know I will.
But then in the very next episode, when Liz decides to follow up on investigating Alex's death, something that I think you can agree she had a right to do, Max said this to her:
It's Too Late, and It's Too Bad wrote:MAX: Liz, if you go, our friendship is over.
So here is, in my opinion, an equal or greater point of a character going back on their word, with the gender roles switched, but at least in my experience with Dreamers, this isn't much of an issue afterwards. Personally I'm not much of a Max fan, but even I can't argue that he says any of this because he
doesn't care about Liz.
As to Grant, if I can make a personal comparison? Because I've been in Alex's shoes on that standpoint, where I've been attracted to a guy who was also interested in me, but there were complications (not quite intergalactic ones, but still there. lol) and though he flirted with me and people joked that we'd probably end up married one day (
so never going to happen, but that was then!) he did go out with other girls while I was away at school and whatnot, but it was more of a "biding his time" thing where he wasn't seriously interested in any of them, and I think that's all Grant was to Isabel, and that Alex knew that. If he didn't... well, he probably would have been too pissed off at her to strip-tease for her birthday, no? But instead he backed off a
little bit, but made sure that she still knew he was there and more to the point there for her as a friend in the meantime. But that's all just personal conjecture. *shrugs*
P.S. But
Pooh! He was a
cool geologist. With neat electrical toys and whatnot.

ROCKS ARE COOLER THAN YOU THINK!
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