Dee is just a nonentity. I don't know why she'd accept Lee's proposal when she knew he loved someone else. That was knowingly stupid and she had no one to blame but herself. And as for what he said to her about making him a better man? When was that, when he was overweight and apathetic? Or maybe when he was aimless and drunk? Get a clue sweetie and let the man go to save you both.
As for Callie. Pretty much the same as Dee. Except I see her more as a whiny child than a woman and mother. It's unrealistic on a large ship to expect that your boss and husband can give you special treatment when people are literally depending on you with their lives based on the job you do. In today's military they wouldn't be allowed to work together especially in a direct chain of command situation for reasons just like that.
It's like she has this rosy image of how things should be and won't take off the rose colored glasses. But god forbid when they slip 'cause then she always blames somebody for reality not living up to her expectations.
Ok. That's me and my humble opinion. I'm gonna go to bed now and look forward to this week's epi. Hopefully neither woman will be in it.. much.

-Ellie